By now you have surely heard the news regarding the Maria Shriver, Arnold Schwarzenegger divorce. As with most divorces, their story seems to be filled with feelings of betrayal, resentment, guilt and sadness.
As a celebrity couple they also have the added stress of being constantly in the public eye. This means that everyone, especially the media, will be scrutinizing every nasty detail of their lives. This will surely add to their already highly traumatic situation.
So, in this arduous situation, is it possible for them to participate in a collaborative divorce process? From what we’ve seen so far, I believe that it is very possible. According to AP writer Michael R. Blood, a spokesman for Schwarzenegger issued a joint statement from the couple stating that they were “working on the future of their relationship while living apart and they would continue to parent their four children — Katherine, 21, Christina, 19, Patrick, 17, and Christopher, 13. After a great deal of thought, reflection, discussion, and prayer, [they] came to this decision together.’”
If their goal truly is to work on their family relationship, a collaborative divorce might just be the ideal process for them. Collaborative divorce focuses on developing an agreement where the couple works cooperatively to create a settlement that is best themselves, but more importantly, what is best for their children.
Several celebrity couples have gone through collaborative divorce. Singer/performer Madonna and her former husband director Guy Ritchie are considered to be the first celebrity couple who went public about using collaborative law. In 2008, actor/comedian Robin Williams and his wife chose to use the collaborative divorce. Williams stated, “We will strive to be honest, cooperative and respectful as we work in this process to achieve the future well-being of our families. We commit ourselves to the collaborative law process.” More recently, Tiger Woods and Elin Nordegren reportedly used collaborative divorce.
So, if these couples who live in the spotlight with the eyes of the world on them, can settle their divorce using the collaborative divorce process, perhaps you can too.